(06-11-2015, 08:06 AM)Shadow Step Wrote: No where really. I can only discuss it with the people that it's involved with.

(06-11-2015, 08:13 AM)Sour Soul Wrote:

(06-11-2015, 08:06 AM)Shadow Step Wrote: No where really. I can only discuss it with the people that it's involved with.

Why? D:

Well, he has a point. Very few people really put in the effort to help others. Others will post something else, leaving others to be on their own it seems.

(06-11-2015, 10:14 AM)Sentimental Gentleman Wrote: I understand where you're coming from, Shadow Step. Some issues are of the kind that we feel we can only work them out with people or ponies we trust. If you don't want to talk about it here, I respect that decision. But do you feel that you have enough people and ponies who are "in the loop" that this problem can be looked at clearly and worked on? I'd hate to think that you were letting it fester.

I sincerely hope things work out between you and your mares. I'm sure that's what everyone and everypony involved would want.

(06-11-2015, 10:18 AM)Shadow Step Wrote:

(06-11-2015, 10:14 AM)Sentimental Gentleman Wrote: I understand where you're coming from, Shadow Step. Some issues are of the kind that we feel we can only work them out with people or ponies we trust. If you don't want to talk about it here, I respect that decision. But do you feel that you have enough people and ponies who are "in the loop" that this problem can be looked at clearly and worked on? I'd hate to think that you were letting it fester.

I sincerely hope things work out between you and your mares. I'm sure that's what everyone and everypony involved would want.

This isn't something I feel that I can only work out between them, it's, "Don't talk about this with anyone else." being told to me by the other parties.

(06-11-2015, 01:14 PM)Sentimental Gentleman Wrote: Oh, I see. Do you agree with this, or do you feel like you're being forced into silence? Because that's probably another thing you'd want to talk about with them if the latter is the case. If silence is hurting you by exacerbating the problem and it's only because of what they have to say (and of course all of this is major presumption which may have nothing to do with the situation at hand, but is a possibility given what you've shared), then I wouldn't say that's taking care of yourself; there may be a certain degree of toxicity in the situation if this is the case.

I may be far off base here; in fact, I'm kind of hoping I am, because the situation I've painted above is an extremely unpleasant one and I wouldn't want you to be stuck in it. But please make sure you're acknowledging and respecting your own needs as well as the needs of others.

(06-11-2015, 01:35 PM)Shadow Step Wrote:

(06-11-2015, 01:14 PM)Sentimental Gentleman Wrote: Oh, I see. Do you agree with this, or do you feel like you're being forced into silence? Because that's probably another thing you'd want to talk about with them if the latter is the case. If silence is hurting you by exacerbating the problem and it's only because of what they have to say (and of course all of this is major presumption which may have nothing to do with the situation at hand, but is a possibility given what you've shared), then I wouldn't say that's taking care of yourself; there may be a certain degree of toxicity in the situation if this is the case.

I may be far off base here; in fact, I'm kind of hoping I am, because the situation I've painted above is an extremely unpleasant one and I wouldn't want you to be stuck in it. But please make sure you're acknowledging and respecting your own needs as well as the needs of others.

They're concerned about their privacy. It's something I do understand. A lot of people seem happy to spread about their issues and drag more and more people into them, forming "Sides" to things that are simple disputes. They would just like to not be in the middle of a public spectacle, and I feel like posting enough to let people know I'm about and such, but without the specifics so things don't spiral out of hand.

(06-12-2015, 01:21 AM)Shadow Step Wrote: So, without bringing in a lot of the events that led here, Ruby and I are no longer romantically involved. We haven't been for a while, and we've just sort of remained friends. Lately, however, there's been another presence about, and it makes Ruby very hostile. Which makes sense.

See, I have Inkie, Ruby, and her sister Garnet. Three has always sort of been my maximum visitors limit. Both times I've gone up to four, all four of them become unstable and just kind of vanish. It's like having a huge Skype call that puts so much strain on the connection that it just drops. And then it takes a while to even attempt to reestablish that connection. So Ruby's been rather hostile because this thing is technically a threat to her very existence, and I've been trying incredibly hard to keep it away, with only limited success.

And to be totally honest, even if she and I are just friends at the moment, and possibly forever, I don't mind. I don't want her to go away, or Garnet, and I'm certainly not a fan of this thing continuously showing up and kind of pushing things to that ruination point. That being said, it's a very tempting being, that's sort of its nature, and if I could find some way to balance them all out I would like to see where it all could go. I made the decision to turn this visitor away once, and I will again if that's what I have to do, but that temptation is what's making things so difficult.