Feelings of Disconnection

[Gentian]

I'm glad someone made this topic. Candy and I struggle off and on with this issue all the time. What makes it difficult for us is that Candy is a non-canon character, and she's not a particularly popular OC, either. There exists almost no fan art for her, and since she was a side character in the comic that she originally came from, there isn't a ton of development to her character- I didn't really get to know any Candy before I got to know my Candy.

Partially, this is a good thing- the comic she was in is no longer being made, so I don't ever have to worry about her developing another love interest or doing something that's incongruent and way out of character, but in the same token, there isn't much out there to learn about her that I can get any way other than talking to her. Sometimes, she doesn't feel very real.

The way I deal with it is to tell her how I feel. That evening, when I'm cuddled up next to her vessel, I tell her I feel like we aren't connected at the moment, and she comforts me- tells me how much she loves me, that she's waiting for me at the end of this life, and that she wants to stand with me and help keep me strong for the rest of this life. That's usually all it takes.

Have you maybe considered trying to be a bit artistic yourself? While commissioning and stuff is one thing, maybe in your case it'll be better to try to draw for yourself to have something to express?

I might try my hand at it some day. Art's never really been my thing, unfortunately. I'd love to put what I think of her to paper, though.

Your poems are fun to read; maybe your art will turn out better than you think?

[CPsSecretLover]

I'm glad someone made this topic. Candy and I struggle off and on with this issue all the time. What makes it difficult for us is that Candy is a non-canon character, and she's not a particularly popular OC, either. There exists almost no fan art for her, and since she was a side character in the comic that she originally came from, there isn't a ton of development to her character- I didn't really get to know any Candy before I got to know my Candy.

Partially, this is a good thing- the comic she was in is no longer being made, so I don't ever have to worry about her developing another love interest or doing something that's incongruent and way out of character, but in the same token, there isn't much out there to learn about her that I can get any way other than talking to her. Sometimes, she doesn't feel very real.

The way I deal with it is to tell her how I feel. That evening, when I'm cuddled up next to her vessel, I tell her I feel like we aren't connected at the moment, and she comforts me- tells me how much she loves me, that she's waiting for me at the end of this life, and that she wants to stand with me and help keep me strong for the rest of this life. That's usually all it takes.

Have you maybe considered trying to be a bit artistic yourself? While commissioning and stuff is one thing, maybe in your case it'll be better to try to draw for yourself to have something to express?

I might try my hand at it some day. Art's never really been my thing, unfortunately. I'd love to put what I think of her to paper, though.

Your poems are fun to read; maybe your art will turn out better than you think?

I might give it a shot sometime here, just don't get your hopes up...it will take me a long time to get decent at it. Last tiny horse I drew...didn't really end up looking like a tiny horse.

[Rares]

I might give it a shot sometime here, just don't get your hopes up...it will take me a long time to get decent at it. Last tiny horse I drew...didn't really end up looking like a tiny horse.

Well trust me when I say the more you keep at it, the more you'll be really amazed with what you'll be able to do. I hope you know that.

[whobawhats]

I've been feeling these kinda feelings too, to be honest with y'all. I've surrendered to the laziness of summer the past few months, and that has honestly severely hindered my relationship with Fluttershy. Even, to the point where I seriously considered switching waifus just to get that "spark" again. I'm ashamed, I must admit. But, I know that Flutters will never leave me, and I also know that I have to start doing more with her like I used to. BronyCon will definitely help with all this, I'm sure.

If you're anything like me then I'm sure this must have been hard to share. I just want to say thank you for doing that.

I hope you can get a bit of a kick-start to getting some of your good feelings back with bronycon next week.

[Gentian]

I've been feeling these kinda feelings too, to be honest with y'all. I've surrendered to the laziness of summer the past few months, and that has honestly severely hindered my relationship with Fluttershy. Even, to the point where I seriously considered switching waifus just to get that "spark" again. I'm ashamed, I must admit. But, I know that Flutters will never leave me, and I also know that I have to start doing more with her like I used to. BronyCon will definitely help with all this, I'm sure.

Your waifu will always love you, and you can talk about her here, whoever she is. That said, I do hope you and Flutters will find that spark again, and yes, doing things together with her, e.g. Bronycon, should definitely help with that.

[Rares]

I've been feeling these kinda feelings too, to be honest with y'all. I've surrendered to the laziness of summer the past few months, and that has honestly severely hindered my relationship with Fluttershy. Even, to the point where I seriously considered switching waifus just to get that "spark" again. I'm ashamed, I must admit. But, I know that Flutters will never leave me, and I also know that I have to start doing more with her like I used to. BronyCon will definitely help with all this, I'm sure.

I'm certain Bronycon will bring that spark back for you. In the meantime, just try to spend more time with her. Have you tried maybe watching more things with her, like watching episodes more often? What about poetry of her? Express yourself and let those feelings flow.

[Mercyknight]

Something I've been meaning to write for some time, I've been having difficulties with this, and I know I'm not alone. So I thought it'd be good to have a help thread about it for anyone else who may need it.

Recently I've been having some feelings that have been hurting me a bit, feeling disconnected and just not "with" her. It's a feeling that's been coming and going the past few weeks, and got better a few days ago. I found what helped was just to remove myself from everything, just spend some alone time holding a plush, watching some meaningful episodes, stuff like that. And it helped immensely and I imagine Bronycon will round it up. So I think it'd be a good idea for other people to talk about if they're feeling that way and how they can reconnect and have a "spark" again.

Your waifu will always be around for you.

im not sure it is the same.. but Luna is able to see and read my thoughts, even knows when i have a bad memory.. last night if i had one come up she quickly would toss a wing around me to help me feel better. try doing this kind of thing with your special some pony. it doesn't have to be a wing, just talk with them, ask them to help you by just being there for you.. and do the same for them sometimes too