05-26-2017, 12:24 AM
(05-22-2017, 09:03 AM)7bloom Wrote: It takes considerable effort for me to pour my heart out and articulate my feelings so I can feel that people who don't know me very personally could understand and appreciate it. When it seems that people don't care about what I have to say and my effort goes unnoticed, it bums me out a bit. This place has been bumming me out for that reason. I just deleted a nice post from my journal because nobody reacted to it for a week and that was really bothering me.
7, I read your journal. I thought your entry was one that didn't really ask for feedback. I don't mean deliberately, but it seemed like you said all htat you needed to say. That you were airing your thoughts, not asking for ours in turn. It was just the feeling I got from it. Kaltes is also very right when he says:
(05-22-2017, 01:44 PM)Kaltes-Herzeleid Wrote: ... I've found people sometimes hesitate to verbally respond to something emotional because they feel as though their words will sully the value of what you wrote.
Because I can tell you, I've felt like that with a lot of posts here. I feel like my words, if I respond too flippantly (or seemingly so), or if I try to share my own experiences or feelings - in an attempt to relate, not to one-up - that I will be seen as insincere, or as someone who is only posting to drive up their count, or some other erroneous thing.
(05-22-2017, 02:32 PM)Rares Wrote: I can tell you that's something people have felt before here too.
The best thing that can be done in that regard is to I think spread those same feelings to others. I think what helps others feel more encouraged to write something is when they know others are responding to what they wrote. Not an idea of "you did this for me, so I'll do it for you" it's more so the fact that helping contribute to an environment where people realize how other people care. But if everyone feels like no one is reading what they're doing, then no one will respond to anything. So the best thing to do is to post more for others.
But if everyone is asking why no one is responding to them, and they stop writing, that's going to just create a bit of a loop.
Not directed towards you in particular about anything, just a very general PSA.
Yet again Rares not only beats me to the punch but knocks it out of the park.
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The bigger you build the bonfire, the more darkness is revealed.
Every possession and every happiness is but lent by chance for an uncertain time, and may therefore be demanded back the next hour.