General Chatter

[Sentimental Gentleman]

I understand where you're coming from, Shadow Step. Some issues are of the kind that we feel we can only work them out with people or ponies we trust. If you don't want to talk about it here, I respect that decision. But do you feel that you have enough people and ponies who are "in the loop" that this problem can be looked at clearly and worked on? I'd hate to think that you were letting it fester.

I sincerely hope things work out between you and your mares. I'm sure that's what everyone and everypony involved would want.

This isn't something I feel that I can only work out between them, it's, "Don't talk about this with anyone else." being told to me by the other parties.

Oh, I see. Do you agree with this, or do you feel like you're being forced into silence? Because that's probably another thing you'd want to talk about with them if the latter is the case. If silence is hurting you by exacerbating the problem and it's only because of what they have to say (and of course all of this is major presumption which may have nothing to do with the situation at hand, but is a possibility given what you've shared), then I wouldn't say that's taking care of yourself; there may be a certain degree of toxicity in the situation if this is the case.

I may be far off base here; in fact, I'm kind of hoping I am, because the situation I've painted above is an extremely unpleasant one and I wouldn't want you to be stuck in it. But please make sure you're acknowledging and respecting your own needs as well as the needs of others.