General Chatter

[Sentimental Gentleman]

Oh, I see. Do you agree with this, or do you feel like you're being forced into silence? Because that's probably another thing you'd want to talk about with them if the latter is the case. If silence is hurting you by exacerbating the problem and it's only because of what they have to say (and of course all of this is major presumption which may have nothing to do with the situation at hand, but is a possibility given what you've shared), then I wouldn't say that's taking care of yourself; there may be a certain degree of toxicity in the situation if this is the case.

I may be far off base here; in fact, I'm kind of hoping I am, because the situation I've painted above is an extremely unpleasant one and I wouldn't want you to be stuck in it. But please make sure you're acknowledging and respecting your own needs as well as the needs of others.

They're concerned about their privacy. It's something I do understand. A lot of people seem happy to spread about their issues and drag more and more people into them, forming "Sides" to things that are simple disputes. They would just like to not be in the middle of a public spectacle, and I feel like posting enough to let people know I'm about and such, but without the specifics so things don't spiral out of hand.

I'm glad to hear all this. Privacy in these matters can be important for all the reasons you detail and more besides. I hope things get resolved positively. And as usual, if there's anything I can do, don't hesitate to let me know.