Updates and Advice: Version 2.0

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That's thing though...the things causing me worry typically aren't "rational," generally I try to distract myself and it has been working more because I put more effort into it...but sometimes I thoughts and anxiety gets so bad I feel like it's a matter of life and death. Though obviously I know it's not.

Either way I'll keep both of these in mind in the future, tonight, even. Thank you.

I find that most of my anxiety is irrational too. Distraction is definitely the best way to deal with it - trying to argue with it will make it stronger. As for the life and death part, I know what you mean (though thankfully it's a fairly rare experience these days). The best thing I can really say is that when you distract yourself in these situations, try not to yank your attention too forcefully. Use a calm tone of voice with yourself and be accepting of how you currently feel - if you aggressively demand too much change in too little time, you'll just wind yourself up which isn't a good thing.