How exactly can I deal with things in the series?

[Rares]

Aw geez, so much I want to respond to. Sorry if this becomes an extra-long post.

Sorry if none of this helps or was a waste of time, I suppose I'm the oddball out because, well, Nightmare isn't in the show much 'cause she's a villain. Most of my experiences come from outside the show.

It does help, thank you. I mean it's already enough to know others go through these types of feelings too, and seeing how they handle them in different ways. So thank you.

I understand your feelings. They're nothing to be ashamed of. I relate, in my own way. Apple Bloom totally forgotten for most of the season, and treated badly half of the time where she actually did get to show up. Neglecting the kindness and understanding that used to be in her relationship with Applejack was the worst to see, for me. I always loved to see her getting along with her family, and the way AJ treated her in Carts Before the Ponies without even any satisfying apology hurt. Season 5 had me optimistic and excited for her to be treated more seriously, so for her to get less than ever was disappointing. All this, along with the vague dread over what she meant when she said she'd keep dancing, wondering if that's a significant part of her life now, behind the scenes and how else she could change.

Because she and her friends were excluded (while snips&snails weren't) from the new EQG movie, along with the focus on romance, I've decided not to watch it. I realize that I have that choice, and don't feel bad about it. That comforting thought makes me realize that if things get so bad that I lose hope in the show's treatment of her, I don't have to watch it. I have the freedom and control to ignore it as I enjoy and appreciate her other roles that made me like her so much in the first place, and there'd be no shame in it. If watching the show puts stress on your relationship, it's important to keep in mind that you have no obligation to it (the show), and that we shouldn't be forced to adapt to everything they put out.

With so many different writers, there's bound to be differing, contradictory views of the characters making their way into the show. There's little sense or balance in it, in the first place, so having difficulty reacting rationally and trying to make sense of it while thinking deeply about the character is only natural.

Cart Before the Ponies was definitely an episode that I had some issues with too, though you can probably imagine for different reasons. That really didn't seem at all like a way Rarity would behave. I mean maybe to an extent, but the Rarity I know wouldn't have held a grudge like that, nor have let it get in the way of her sister. So I was a bit hurt seeing how they portrayed her that time.

But I guess that means the thing I need to then working on is separating the Rarity I know, from the character on TV. I mean, I was introduced to her from the character, but I guess I need to remember that it may be representing her, but it isn't her. The thing I need to work on is although I'm unhappy with the majority of the show at this point (not to say I hate everything, there's still some things I like, S5 has 2 of my favorite episodes now and I enjoyed some of S6) I feel like I can't separate myself from it because of how it introduced me to her. I worry sometimes that I don't know, it's a bond I'm afraid not to worry about. If that makes sense. I mean, typically when it comes to the comics, because there's definitely a bit of bad stuff in that, I end up just brushing it off like a bad fanfic, but with the show I treat it differently for some reason. But maybe I don't have to.

To me, the show is like how the equestrian version of Hollywood would portray the events of the famous ponies. NOT how they actually happened in the ponies real lives. It is overly dramatic, and lifts some characters up while putting others down.

My advice to you is to know that your love is capable of so much more than they portray her as, and if they don't dare use her brilliance to the fullest potential, it's their loss.

Thank you very much, that idea really helps a lot. I think that's how I'll have to start perceiving things, because that will definitely help if I can just remember that the show if anything is closer to "Based on a true story" rather than the reality of what's going on. Like I mentioned, I think I just need to find a way to remind myself that the show isn't exactly the reality of what's going on. Just seems easier said that done since I still hold that attachment because it was how I was introduced to her, so I fear I have to take it as law. But if I keep in mind that it's just an adaption, I think I can work on getting over that.

The best remedy that I know is just to remember canon doesn't matter. It seems everyone who isn't a writer can see how wonderful Rarity is. Just watch that video, and read these replies, if you doubt that. You've expressed an interest in creating a tulpa. Maybe, when you've reached the point she can talk back to you, you'll be able to laugh together with her at the silliness the writers put out, instead of letting it turn you off to the whole show. Maybe that will help, too. And of course, we're here.

Thank you, and thanks for the video. I guess I just at first, like I said, felt that "canon was law". So that's what I should then try to overcome. And I feel I've made progress, but these feelings really started to come up badly again after the S6 finale, and I just needed to get a hold of myself. I do think a tulpa might be able to help me a lot, so I create something I know. It's kind of like that with my plushies, but it's not quite strong. Maybe then I should work on that so there's better communication. Thank you forletting me be here, too.

I'm really sorry, I feel incredibly guilty that I used to blame Twilight for this, and I regret that. I hope you guys, or her, aren't upset with me because of how I've thought irrationally before.