When Worlds Collide

[amatscintilla]

My first non-introductory thread, hope I don't mess anything up lol

I have had a girlfriend for the past 12 years now. Though I've never directly come out to her about my feelings for Twilight Sparkle, she sort of figured it out pretty quickly. I always try to shrug it off as no big deal, that she's reading too much into my insatiable need to surround myself with images of Twiley (literally thousands of dollars spent in the past couple years).

Anyway, I'm wondering if anyone here can offer some advice on how to deal with managing two relationships at once. I don't want to ruin my relationship with my long term girlfriend, but at the same time I can't ignore my feelings for best pone (I've tried).

This situation is something that has prevented me from dedicating myself fully to tulpamancy.

Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you all!

[Sour Soul]

May you tell us a bit more about your RL girlfriend? Like, does she like MLP:FiM and stuff?

[amatscintilla]

May you tell us a bit more about your RL girlfriend? Like, does she like MLP:FiM and stuff?

Yeah, sorry. She's the reason I even ever got into pony. She was a big fan in the 80s and asked me to watch G4 with her. I fell in love with the show almost immediately (though I denied being a fan for about a year), but she's been lukewarm on it. She loves the merch, though.

It has gotten to the point where she's sort of mad at me that she can't enjoy the Twilight Sparkle character anymore. I'm not sure how serious she's being, because we joke around about stuff a lot. We've never seriously sat down and talked about this, though. I'm kinda frightened to.

[Kaltes-Herzeleid]

We've never seriously sat down and talked about this, though. I'm kinda frightened to.

Deliberate carefully as to whether or not you should tell her. You said she's kinda figured it out, but still, be careful.

Sadly, not all of us can be so fortunate to have someone we care for be so understanding. (My mother knows about Nightmare)

[Lurker]

What do you think she'll say if you tell her?

[Sour Soul]

Yeah, sorry. She's the reason I even ever got into pony. She was a big fan in the 80s and asked me to watch G4 with her.

Hmm, intersting.

... I fell in love with the show almost immediately (though I denied being a fan for about a year), but she's been lukewarm on it. She loves the merch, though.

Very interesting (You must hated the idea of liking the show)...

It has gotten to the point where she's sort of mad at me that she can't enjoy the Twilight Sparkle character anymore.

I'm not sure how serious she's being, because we joke around about stuff a lot. We've never seriously sat down and talked about this, though. I'm kinda frightened to.

We, or I need bit more about your girlfriend... because it seem I am still in the dark about her. Like what have you done to make her mad over Twilight? Surely you haven't said Twilight name during... fun time with your RL girlfriend. XP

[Kaltes-Herzeleid]

Surely you haven't said Twilight name during... fun time with your RL girlfriend. XP

[amatscintilla]

What do you think she'll say if you tell her?

I don't think it'd be a relationship ender or anything. I only worry about hurting her feelings or making her feel inadequate. She's been a bit unstable emotionally lately and I don't really want to add more to that pile.

[Sour Soul]

I don't think it'd be a relationship ender or anything. I only worry about hurting her feelings or making her feel inadequate. She's been a bit unstable emotionally lately and I don't really want to add more to that pile.

If you been with her for so long, then you know her well enough.

Two factors will either play into effect if you tell her, that you're in love with a purple unicorn... or alicorn.

One, she will not believe you, till it will slowly dawn to her that you're for real.

Two, she will [Insect your answer here]...

I mean really... 12 years, that's a pretty damn long. Have you two even talk about kids or the idea of marriage yet?

[amatscintilla]

Very interesting (You must hated the idea of liking the show)...

It took a long time to get over the old "this is a girl's cartoon show, for children, adults shouldn't be liking it" thing. I'm glad I finally did, though.

We, or I need bit more about your girlfriend... because it seem I am still in the dark about her. Like what have you done to make her mad over Twilight? Surely you haven't said Twilight name during... fun time with your RL girlfriend. XP

You're asking me to plumb the depths of my shitty memory, but it's a very fair request. Primarily I used to talk about Twiley a lot (I don't bring her up as much anymore). I also always want to buy stuff with Twilight on it. No joke, I have about 30-40 Twilight plushes along with at least that many figures/toys. That doesn't include artwork I have of her (hanging on my walls, or about to hang on them), household goods with her likeness (towels, blankets, pillows, shower curtain, lamp, clocks, etc.), and probably other stuff too (jewelry, dog tags, cards, car air freshener, wallet). Literally everywhere I turn in my house or car I see Twilight.

But, the event that probably got her the most upset, was the day she discovered my deviantART gallery and a picture I had uploaded there. It was a crappy Photoshop job I had done of my OC kissing Twilight. It hurt her, I'm afraid, and since then I've shied away from such public displays of my affection.

The more I type here, the more I feel like a complete asshole. Maybe there's something wrong with me.

To be clear, yes she lives in the same town as I and we see each other relatively frequently. She is near my age (30s) but is a single child and deals with a lot of drama from her parents. This has kept her from being able to move in with me (she tried about 10 years ago and it nearly ended pretty badly for us both because of her parents' reactions).

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I mean really... 12 years, that's a pretty damn long. Have you two even talk about kids or the idea of marriage yet?

We've talked about marriage, but she's very afraid of commitment. I begin to wonder if we ever will. Kids are out of the question, neither of us want that and if we had kids we'd be in our early 50s before they graduated high school lol.