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(11-24-2017, 03:48 PM)Sour Soul Wrote: Everyone is different; perhaps it’s me having such a wild and vivid imagination as a child, so for me this came easy when I had enter the starting point with Rainbow Dash and Pinkie Pie long ago. For others, like yourself, need not to give up, and as long as you’re serious, then anything is possible. Thank you for sharing that, Shadow.
(11-24-2017, 03:57 PM)Rares Wrote: Nice to see you around Shadow! Thanks for sharing that advice too. It seems like there are a lot of people worried they aren't doing a good enough job, and I hope that advice like that can help them realize that it's okay.
Thank you, both. It was sort of my hope for this post to enlighten and encourage some folks. I lurk sometimes and I've seen recently a few different people saying they're unsure, that it's hard, etc. I wanted to make it known, publicly, that it is hard, yes, but there's a pay off in the end. It could take weeks, months, years even, but consistently trying, working towards it, not giving up, being willing to trying various methods, will lead to long lasting changes and possibly relationships. Certainly, at the very least, life long companions.
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(11-24-2017, 05:02 PM)Shadow Step Wrote: Thank you, both. It was sort of my hope for this post to enlighten and encourage some folks. I lurk sometimes and I've seen recently a few different people saying they're unsure, that it's hard, etc. I wanted to make it known, publicly, that it is hard, yes, but there's a pay off in the end. It could take weeks, months, years even, but consistently trying, working towards it, not giving up, being willing to trying various methods, will lead to long lasting changes and possibly relationships. Certainly, at the very least, life long companions. No, thank you for sharing. I think that was really thoughtful of you. Knowing other's experiences is incredibly helpful, and I hope what you shared does help encourage others.
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(11-25-2017, 04:26 PM)Rares Wrote: No, thank you for sharing. I think that was really thoughtful of you. Knowing other's experiences is incredibly helpful, and I hope what you shared does help encourage others.
Same, I hope SHADOW! Share MORE! Here. :3 Again, thank you for sharing, it does mean a lot here.
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(11-25-2017, 05:49 PM)Sour Soul Wrote: (11-25-2017, 04:26 PM)Rares Wrote: No, thank you for sharing. I think that was really thoughtful of you. Knowing other's experiences is incredibly helpful, and I hope what you shared does help encourage others.
Same, I hope SHADOW! Share MORE! Here. :3 Again, thank you for sharing, it does mean a lot here.
I've considered it, but I've also heard there's a group that doesn't like the "multiple partners" thing.
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(11-25-2017, 05:51 PM)Shadow Step Wrote: ... I've also heard there's a group that doesn't like the "multiple partners" thing.
Fu*k em'! I will challenge all those who oppose of such blasphemy to be said here!
This group should worry about their own personal affairs, rather worry about others who simply wish to spread wisdom, ideas, and harmony for those like yourself, Shadow.
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(11-25-2017, 05:51 PM)Shadow Step Wrote: (11-25-2017, 05:49 PM)Sour Soul Wrote: (11-25-2017, 04:26 PM)Rares Wrote: No, thank you for sharing. I think that was really thoughtful of you. Knowing other's experiences is incredibly helpful, and I hope what you shared does help encourage others.
Same, I hope SHADOW! Share MORE! Here. :3 Again, thank you for sharing, it does mean a lot here.
I've considered it, but I've also heard there's a group that doesn't like the "multiple partners" thing.
I think we need more of the kind of thing you shared. Some waifuists do indeed get hot and bothered by the idea of having more than one waifu, but it really doesn't seem to be the case here. If it is, they generally stay quiet, at the very least, so please, if you have more to share, it would be most welcome.
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Well, I suppose another thing to mention about meditation in general is that the first goal you want to go for is a clear state of mind. This sounds easier than it is, but it has long term benefits. As someone that's bipolar I can say that I know how hard it is to pull yourself out of a funk. I spent multiple years feeling so helpless that after a suicide attempt I realized even dying wouldn't solve how I felt. That's the bottom of the barrel in my opinion. Being so depressed even dying doesn't seem like a way out, that the suffering you're feeling will continue forever. Meditation has helped with that tremendously, possibly along with my partners.
It takes a deal of time to get it right, to figure out how to close your eyes, breathe, and clear your mind of all emotions and thoughts. The most common way to speed this process is with a mantra. It can be anything, the words don't matter, just that you repeat it over and over. The idea is actually to turn it into nothing by repeating it. You know, like how saying a word over and over again causes dissociation and the word starts to lose meaning? The goal there is that the repetition puts you into a sort of trance like state. It keeps you awake, you have to focus on your breathing and saying something, but it's repetitive and loses meaning so you kind of tune out a little. Once you figure out how it feels though it's pretty easy to get back to even without the mantra. To just close your eyes, relax, and drift. It becomes therapeutic too.
For a personal example there are some less than savory things in the Pony fandom, I think we all know them. A few in particular get me very worked up, they invade my consciousness and I find it hard to shake them. A single meditation session can completely rid me of these thoughts, as well as strengthen my partners. So, meditation is for more than just tulpa forcing and it pays to remember that. Even if you don't want to make a tulpa but you want to get a better handle on your emotions or a mental illness, meditation can help. Therapists in the US are even suggesting meditation techniques more and more for cases, instead of or along side medications. Believe me, they help a lot.
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(11-25-2017, 05:51 PM)Shadow Step Wrote: I've considered it, but I've also heard there's a group that doesn't like the "multiple partners" thing.
Only time I've ever seen outright hate towards multiple partners is a waifu group on Reddit. You should be safe here.
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(11-26-2017, 04:43 PM)Kaltes-Herzeleid Wrote: (11-25-2017, 05:51 PM)Shadow Step Wrote: I've considered it, but I've also heard there's a group that doesn't like the "multiple partners" thing.
Only time I've ever seen outright hate towards multiple partners is a waifu group on Reddit. You should be safe here.
I was browsing tulpa dot info the other day and came across a thread where the people were talking about someone around there that has 14 tulpa, and this was a year or so ago. Several others were saying that with more people getting into tulpamancy new stuff was being discovered by the day, how far the brain could be pushed. I can handle about 3-4 guests, as I call them, with me, but I have far more than 14 in total. And as I said, in theory, I have a whole world of them they could invite over. When you start getting into double digit numbers people start questioning your "fidelity". Maybe I'll become specific one day, but for now I'll just say I have a lot of partners, and they partner with each other. We are a herd, and it's normal for them.
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(11-26-2017, 04:57 PM)Shadow Step Wrote: I can handle about 3-4 guests, as I call them, with me, but I have far more than 14 in total. And as I said, in theory, I have a whole world of them they could invite over. When you start getting into double digit numbers people start questioning your "fidelity". Maybe I'll become specific one day, but for now I'll just say I have a lot of partners, and they partner with each other. We are a herd, and it's normal for them.
I don't see anything wrong with that, and should you ever feel comfortable enough to share I'll be glad to read.
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